Roadblocks and Obstacles


Frustration (Photo credit: music2work2)

Disappointment? Frustration? Even anger? What do we do when we hit roadblocks on the way to where we want to go? Often times, these “roadblocks” come in the form of people, people who will not do what we want them to do in order for us to get where we want to go. The natural tendency is to become frustrated with them. “Why won’t they just do what I am asking them to do so I can get on with this plan?”

However, God has been showing me something very cool about these obstacles over the last few years. And, that is to embrace the obstacles and to understand that: 1) Those obstacles are simply “bumper guards” to keep us on the track He has set before us (much like the bumper guards that they put out for children when they go bowling). 2) God will use the obstacles in His big plan for us, one way or the other-may not be the original plan we had but He will use it for our good. 3) There is no obstacle He cannot remove, move, or use to get us to our destination.

So, in looking at obstacles that way, I understand that my momentary frustration with an obstacle, be it a person or a thing, is just that-momentary. It does not last long because I know that He will get me to where He wants me to be in His timing and the obstacle can become a stepping stone.

You see, I believe that there is nothing we can do to escape or mess up His plan for our lives. We can always take a detour through our own poor choices, but ultimately His plan for our lives will be carried out.

It is this truth that makes the frustrating moments and days not-so-frustrating and even exciting as I think about…”Hmm, wonder what He’s up to now. There really must be more to this plan than I initially thought. God is definitely up to something.”


11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Jeremiah 29:11


So on days like today I just remind myself-its all part of the journey. This person blocking my way is not the problem. The problem is the problem and this person is simply not a part of the solution. 

Prisoner of my Purpose

Prisoner of my Purpose

Ever feel like a prisoner of your own purpose? When a purpose is God-appointed, it will follow you even when you wish it would go away. It will hunt you down like a dog when you try to run away … Continue reading

We must weep before we can begin to heal

Weeping Madonna

Weeping Madonna (Photo credit: MEL810)

“A wound that goes unacknowledged and unwept is a wound that cannot heal.”~John Eldredge

This is more than just a quote. This is good, hard truth. If you have wounds, don’t be afraid of them. Open them up, talk to someone about them, pray about them, allow God and a trusted friend or counselor to help you work through the healing. Denying the wound is not “moving on.” You must weep first; then the healing begins. And, hey, some wounds will heal in stages. They will surprise you at times, seem to resurface, sometimes even seem to rush over you like a wave. Don’t be afraid of that, either. That is just an opportunity for God to take you to a higher level of healing. It’s not a sign of your failure, lack of faith, or weakness as a human being. No, it’s just a sign that you are actually stronger, ready for the next level of healing, a level you couldn’t have reached before. Just let those tears come when they need to. Let Him enter and minister. Let those you trust provide support and encouragement, and if there are those who judge or belittle, either remove them from your life or put some distance between them and yourself for as long as you need it. And, be ready to share your healing journey with others because you will certainly meet another soul one day who is just a little further back in the healing journey and will need to hear from you, “It’s all good-you’re just healing.”


“…weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.” Psalm 30;5

The Waiting Room


THE WAITING ROOM...Life is a highway…well, sometimes…Other times, it’s more like a waiting room, feeling like time stands still, while we wait. What purpose does the “waiting” serve? It grows one’s resolve to see the thing through. A pregnant mother waits and waits and waits, suffering discomfort and pain along the way, until the expectation of the blessing that is to come overpowers her fear of the pain. It is at that moment, that even when told NOT to push, she is compelled to PUSH through the pain because she KNOWS it is TIME to birth her blessing. I wonder, if pregnancies were easier, only lasting a day, would we be more inclined to say, “Oh let’s wait, I’m not ready, it’s going to hurt! Can’t we just wait another day, doc?” Or, if pregnancy did not involve months and months of discomfort and sacrifice, would we be more inclined to say, “Uhm, I can wait a little longer, please, I don’t want to go through that pain!” So, I contend that the discomfort, the “endless” waiting, and the PAIN all serve to give us a resolve, a sense of ownership, that this baby, this blessing, this dream, that God has planned for us must be delivered, through the pain, in His timing. It must not be abandoned or put off when the appointed time comes. So, while I hate the times of being in the “waiting room,” being “pregnant” with an appointment to fulfill, Lord, help me to be thankful for the times in the “waiting room” and to remember that those are the times that lead up to the delivery and that you have a divine, appointed time at which all of the discomfort, pain, and “endless” waiting will be worth it. His timing is perfect. The waiting room is a good place to be. It’s a “God” place to be.